21 things I’ve learned in my 21 years of life.

 

 

 

 

In honor of turning 21 today, I decided to share 21 things I’ve learned in the past 21 years of my life. I was born May 21, 1998 around 1 am and it’s crazy to think how much I’ve changed and grown over the years. And there’s a lot that I have learned and taken a way from my experiences.

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The List (21)

 

  •  The only person you can control is yourself.  I realized that if you stop trying to control the things that happen around you and to you and focus on how you respond to these things, then you become so much more happier. When you try and control everything then you yourself  become out of control and when you take control back , it’s the best feeling ever. It makes it very hard for things to get under your skin.

 

 

  • You manifest your thoughts/ life. I love this quote by a philosopher named Lao Tzu. he says,“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” It’s basically saying  your thoughts determine how your life will be. If you think your going to be horrible at something, chances are you will be.  It’s all about believing in yourself and being kind to yourself.

 

 

  • Every one’s perspective and or reality is different.  I realized this after arguing with someone in my family and hearing there view of a memory be completely different from mine and I thought they were seriously lying. That could be the case but I think it’s more to do with how they perceived what was happening. And sometimes they recall things that may not have happened but because they feel a type of way  then it becomes canon. ” This is what you said, ” and your thinking I didn’t say that all. People hear what they want to hear, and they will take what you said and flip it and it may not be intentional. Sometimes when people call me names in a argument and I just tell them I’ll be what ever you want me to be. And because Of this realization I came to the conclusion that you can’t deny the way people feel or you can’t necessarily say your right or their wrong.

 

  • Reading books can help you with reading people. This may or may not be far reached but I often feel like reading books helps me to be more aware of others and how I make them feel. In books there’s so much attention to body language and other small details. I often find myself looking for those tell tell sign with others in order to see how I make them feel.  Do I make them feel uncomfortable? Do they like me? And it makes me self aware and I  make sure I am being respectful and kind and so that  it comes off that way. If you read books let me know if you feel this way.

 

  • Be Grateful. I always for get to appreciate the things I do have instead of  pitying myself for the things I don’t have. I mean, things can be worse.

 

  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions. You don’t get anywhere in life if you don’t ask questions when you don’t know something.

 

  • It’s okay to change your mind. Your thoughts then shouldn’t be your thoughts now. Everyone has the right to change their mind and have no one judge them for it because everyone changes. And if you don’t change then you’re not growing.

 

  • Breathe. We all are guilty of holding are breaths in moments of stress  and it’s important to breathe your way through it and things will get better.

 

  • Make sure you do things because you want to and not because someone else does.  Life can be stressful when everyone’s telling you what to do with it.

 

  • Take responsibility for your actions.  Be responsible for your actions, yourself, and for your mental, emotional and physical state. No one can take care of you better than you and don’t blame others for your choices.

 

  • Surround yourself around positive people and people who have similar goals. These people are only gonna lift you up and challenge you.

 

  • Mental health is a serious thing and everyone should take notes. Your mental health is always on the line and should be just as important as your physical health because they are one in the same.

 

  • Self love is the real deal. It’s important to take time to show yourself love and do things for yourself.

 

  • I can’t live with out music. Music has gotten me through a lot of tough situations and I can’t imagine a life without it.

 

  • The world is big and I am truly small.  There’s so many people and animals and life forms that exist on planet earth. It’s really crazy when you think about it, like how the hell do we all fit?

 

  • People are crazy. We all are truly out of our minds and we all love it.

 

  • Trust your self. Trust that you will do the right thing, trust that you will succeed, and trust that you are capable in life.

 

  • Dogs are the best. they are there with you through all your ups and downs. They are there with you throughout different stages of your life. And they always make you feel loved.

 

  • You can do anything with a phone and Wifi. So many people are able to make careers with just theses two items and a little bit of determination. You also have the world at your hands and that makes it harder for people to stay ignorant.

 

  • It’s okay to agree to disagree. You don’t always have to be right and the quickest way to dissolve a pointless argument is to agree to disagree.

 

  • Don’t take your self so seriously. Laugh at yourself and don’t be afraid to knock yourself down a notch especially when your ego’s in the way.

 

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