Sometimes we feel lonely and and we think that the only way to rid of that loneliness is to be with somebody. We depend on the idea that life must be better with someone else instead of realizing that the loneliness we feel can be fulfilled by ourselves.
Other times we feel left out. We see a lot of people in relationships, some amazing and some not so amazing. And yet we desire to fit in to social norms but at the same time we want nothing to do with it. It’s confusing, I know.
The only thing you need to know 7 that it is okay to be single. And you can discover this through self love. The minute you love your flaws is the minute you take back power that others have over you. You won’t need someone to tell you how beautiful you are or tell you how strong you are, not that it’s not appreciated but it’s not needed.
It’s not the end of the world if you don’t have a partner or someone in your life to be “romantic” with. Take the time to stop and smell the roses by enjoying the company of others but don’t revel in it.
Things I discovered as a single woman is that it allows me to get to know myself. I see other relationships and get to see what I want and don’t want in a relationship. I know what I will and will not tolerate. Seeing it from an outsiders point of view, I am able to remind myself to be mindful with others and there feelings.
Being independent is a plus so even when you do get into a relationship, you don’t expect your partner to cater to all your needs. There are so many people who want there partner to take care of them financially and emotionally. Now, I’m not saying this is a bad thing, nor am I attacking the people who do want this. I just want people to know that in the long run it’s good to know how to take care of yourself. Not everyone will be able to help you with your emotional needs especially since they are your feelings. Other people won’t feel exactly how you feel because your mind is your own.
Ultimately being single is a growing factor. You grow so much when you are alone especially if you have been in a relationship for so long. This is why it is crucial to do your own things when you have a romantic partner so that you don’t become too dependent on them. It’s okay to depend on them for some things , just not everything. You always here of people having a hard time after a divorce or a break up. They have this huge meltdown, It’s the complete in of the world for them. Why? because they were so dependent on that other person.
when break ups happen, you should feel sad that it ended. But, it shouldn’t get to the point where you don’t know who you are without this person in your life.
Just to be clear, I am not an advocate against relationships. I truly believe that you can benefit from being in a relationship. You can grow by experiencing things together and you can learn from the other person if your mind is clear and open. each individual will teach you how to love them and how to be there for them therefore you learn to be fluent and flexible.
I just want people who are single or are afraid to be single to not feel like they have to be in a relationship to be fulfilled. Take your time!
This is coming from a woman who has never dated or been in a relationship, so take this as you will. But, I have seen plenty relationships start and end and have learned a lot from them.
If you have anything to add to this or disagree, feel free to start a discussion.